After none for so long, suddenly, an abundance!
From Pornography by Debbie Nathan
Porn, on the other hand, is often "all about the fantasy of abundance," says California sex therapist Marty Klein. It's like a fairy tale feast where the food is perfectly prepared and there's more than enough for everyone. Even better, the diners didn't have to buy or cook it--it was no work or trouble at all. And the variety of dishes is amazing. Many, such as roast beef, new potatoes and chocolate cake, are enjoyed by almost everyone. Others--the Brussels sprouts, duck pate and pickled watermelon rinds--make just a few people's mouths water, while others absolutely can't stand them. Regardless of their likes and dislikes, the guests line up at the buffet to load what they want on their plates. No one wonders about what childhood experience made them like funny little green vegetables more than potatoes. No one thinks that watermelon rinds are evil. They just pass them up for the cake. Everyone gorges. Afterward, heartburn is never a problem.
After all, what could be a bigger turn-on than a world where everyone has the right to express his or her sexuality, without having to act out someone else's because of poverty, oppression or ignorance? What could be more exciting than sex education that helps young people know who they are--not by adopting stereotyped identities such as stud, hottie or good girl, but by understanding themselves as community members and complicated individuals?
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